A Baby Named Hope: How a Child I Never Had Helped Me Love the Ones I Did [Operation Give a Little: Give a listening ear and Give a public accolade]

“I almost lost my son, once,” she tossed it out, as if she were saying something as casual as how’s the weather out there or socks are buy-one-get-one-free today. But the way she looked at me, darting glances away from her cash register, made me realize that it was meaningful to her. And how could it not be? As …

Answering My Most Awkward Question [In Being the Answer To Someone Else’s Prayer, You Will Often Find the Answer to Your Own]

picture credit “How many kids do you have?” is such a loaded question for me, for any mother who’s lost a child. And yet, being new, it’s one I’ve had to answer a lot lately. Normally I do some mental math and if the questioner is someone who I won’t likely see again sometimes I’ll …

The Trick To Living Without Fear [And Also For Not Getting Eaten By Mountain Lions. Maybe.]

Moving halfway across the country has been a bit traumatic for our kids and, in typical kid fashion, they manifest their discombobulation by suddenly refusing to eat, potty and/or sleep. (For the record, you can’t pee on a tree if you’re a girl. Jelly Bean proved this by first refusing to use a “stiiinky” biffy, …

We Can’t Compare Pain, We Can Only Use Ours to Comfort Others in Theirs [Why I’m still blogging today in spite of the National Blog Silence Day.]

Flowers, funeral programs. Obituary, organ donation. What you’ll dress them in. Will you have a viewing and if so, will the casket be open? Who do you want to pray? What picture do you want displayed? Is it copyrighted? A death is a big thing but it leaves so many little details that must be …