Navel gazing is kinda my thing. Not literally – trust me, after having 5 kids, not even I want to look at the stretched-out half-innie half-outie cross between a Cabbage Patch doll and a water balloon protuberance on my stomach. (Although, weirdly, I never ever get belly button lint. I don’t know why. I’ve just never grown it.) No, my point is that I love thinking about what makes me me. I love (trying) to figure out my motivations and intentions and even likes and dislikes. Which I know sounds a little crazy – who doesn’t know what they like? – but as an inveterate people pleaser sometimes it really does take some serious effort to discern what I like from what I think people want me to like.
Sometimes I like to do yoga poses and stare at walls. This is the mom version of being sent to the corner.
All of which means that I’ve never met a self-quiz I didn’t like. Strength Finders? Done it. Chinese Zodiac? Best part of Chinese dining, in my opinion. The 3-hour extended Meyers-Briggs personality assessment? BRING. IT. I even just took a quiz on “What kind of celebrity girlfriend are you?” in Seventeen magazine at the dentist’s office even though I’ve been married for 13 years and not-seventeen for a lot longer than that. (In case you’re curious, I’m an excellent girlfriend. Like Mila Kunis amazing. Albeit with tendencies to be Taylor Swift-y clingy. Personally I was hoping for Kim Kardashian just to validate my insane number of shoes.)
There’s only one thing I love more than trying to figure out how I tick. And that’s figuring out how other people tick. I love people watching in public places. Sure the fashion is entertaining (it always makes me sad when someone with really crazy style gets a “makeover” – I feel like a little bit of joy has left the planet) but really I enjoy it because I love making up the backstory. Why is that man walking without swinging his arms? (He must be in the cast of Riverdance!) Why is that woman at a fancy restaurant in track pants and a ratty hoodie? (She was literally running to meet her lover!) Why is that small child opening all the lipsticks in the makeup aisle and using them to draw a mural on the floor? And why does he look so much like my kid?? (Walk away. Some questions don’t need answering.)
So when I first heard about the new site ArchetypeMe, I got all excited. It incorporates the best of both worlds – navel gazing and people watching – into one fun website so I don’t even have to leave home to get my fix! (Why is that lady wearing sweaty workout leggings at 3 o’clock in the afternoon? Because I waited too long to shower after my workout and now I can’t because Jelly Bean is napping and girl has eagle-ears for running water!) Basically it works by having you take an 8-question quiz to determine what kind of archetype (definition: “a pattern of behavior that explains who you are and how you engage with the world around you.”) you fit into and then it customizes a newsfeed for you based on your personality. Then you can connect with your friends and see what kind of archetype they fit into and what they’re reading. I learned this because I watched the helpful 30-second intro video on the site… during which I realized I have been saying “archetype” wrong all these years. It’s ARK-uh-type, not ARCH-e-type. Yeah, I’m embarrassed. But hey, already learning new stuff about myself! Like my vocab skills need polishing!
You also have the fun option of checking out your friends’ archetypes and what appears on their feed. And this is what I was really interested in! Have you ever asked yourself what makes you and your bestie such good friends even though you have totally different backgrounds, different styles and different chocolate preferences? (White “chocolate” – ugh.) I think about that kind of thing all the time. Anyhow, going through the quiz, I’d already mentally cataloged my friends, family and random acquaintances and was dying to see if I was right. (Just so you know: I don’t consider myself a particularly good judge of character. Not that that stops me. Why let a lack of skill or talent stop you from doing something fun!) Unfortunately I don’t have any friends on ArchetypeMe. Yet.
Something else I learned about myself: I have a tiny head. Children’s hats fit me perfectly. Pretty sweet since it’s super hard to find penguin hats in the adult section.
Which is where you guys come in! Are you interested in the psychology of personality – what makes people do what they do and think how they think? Want to sign up so I can voyeuristically read your archetype? (It’s all free, by the way.) Find yours now by taking a short quiz on: www.ArchetypeMe.com And now for the giveaway! Answer this question in a comment below for a chance to win a $50 Visa gift card and a copy of the Archetypes: Who Are you? book, signed by author: Why do you think it’s important to really know who you are? Rules: